From the moment a woman finds out or suspects she may be pregnant she is completely aware that within her body is, or may be, a growing baby. It is precisely because she knows it is a human baby - a new life - that a response follows. For many women this is a moment of extreme joy, others may be shocked or surprised but accept the pregnancy after some while. For others, however, it is something that must not happen or be allowed to continue. The ‘reasons’ are many and are individual for each woman who is pregnant.
From the moment of conception her body has already begun to send out hormones in preparation for the child’s future well being and growth. By the time she suspects she may be pregnant, the baby’s heart may already be beating (about 21 days after conception) and s/he will have already have been growing in the womb since about six days old. Yet his or her mother thinks that it is okay to stop the pregnancy in its early stages thinking that it will make her ‘unpregnant’ and life can return to how it was before she became pregnant. This is not so, but unless someone tells her this she may seek to kill her child by abortion just on what she is feeling about the situation. However, the hormones surging through her body are causing so many changes that she is actually unable to make a simple decision let alone a life or death decision. She is at her most vulnerable and needs all the help she can get.
The mother, for that is what this woman or young girl already is, thinks she can choose whether to become a mother. That decision is no longer an option. Once conception has taken place the woman has become a mother to the child she is carrying and the man (or boy) has become a father. A new family has been created. The new baby’s father may wish to have nothing to do with his child, but that doesn’t make him any less a father with new responsibilities. One or other of them, or both, may even still be at school and they realise that the baby will stop their education. This may be so, but it is no reason to kill the new innocent baby that depends on his or her mother for his or her very life.
Each of us is made in the image of God and once created we begin our journey of life that should take us beyond the womb and possibly into old age. It is not for any person to say that killing a child by abortion is an option. Whatever reasons or obstacles that the mother thinks are valid for the killing of her child, she will in time come to realise that actually they are surmountable. Many young girls may use the excuse that cannot have a baby as their parents ‘will kill them’, yet it is doubtful if this is actually the case. Some parents may be extremely disappointed or angry when they do find out that their daughter is pregnant, but most in time accept the situation and look forward to the birth of their grandchild. Some religions may think that an unwed pregnant daughter is a dishonour to their family and the young mother’s life may be in danger, but there are plenty of organisations that can protect her (as should the law of the land) from any violence towards her and her unborn baby.
Mothers need to be told that killing children by abortion is wrong. They also need to be shown pictures of unborn babies so that they can see for themselves how their child is developing in the womb. They may even benefit from seeing pictures of babies that have been killed by abortion so that they can be prevented from killing their child in a similar manner. They need to be told about the effects of Post Abortion Syndrome, including the physical as well as the emotional damage that killing children by abortion does to mothers.
The eternal consequences of killing a child by abortion are immense. God says that we shouldn’t kill yet abortion kills an unborn baby in a violent manner. The mother needs to have this explained to her. Yes, there is forgiveness from abortion for those who genuinely repent from this and admit they were wrong when they finally find out the truth, but for anyone who thinks they can kill their child by abortion and then at some time in the future ‘get right with God’ need to be told that God will not be mocked. We cannot come to the Lord on our terms but on His terms. He calls us and it is by His grace we can find forgiveness, but not if we knowingly sin against Him, for that is what killing our children by abortion is, and then expect that He will forgive us when it suits us. We may find that due to our hardness of heart in proceeding with the killing of our children that we actually cannot be forgiven. We will have been in the position of having violated God’s love and God’s image in the world. In the Bible when people chose to disobey God’s ways He ‘gave them over’ to do what was right in their own minds. Romans chapter 1 v 28 says "Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done". Mothers who, even after having been told killing their child by abortion is wrong, but then refuse to accept this truth, may find that God ‘gives them over’ to do what they desire with dreadful consequences.
Even now, many mothers who have killed their child by abortion and been ‘forgiven’ from this sin still think they were justified in their actions. They believe that in their particular circumstances the Lord allowed them to kill their child and may even have been with them when the killing took place. They think their crisis pregnancy was an exception and that it was acceptable to God as God knew what they were going through. The Bible however, says in 1 Corinthians 10 v 13 "God is faithful. He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it". A mother in a crisis pregnancy may think there is no other solution but to kill her child by abortion. But there is always a way out. She may need a lot of help in the short term and/or long term and many organisations can provide that help.
Making a decision on feelings even if all ‘options’ have been carefully weighed without taking into consideration the truth about the rights and wrongs of killing children will not only lead to the death of the unborn baby, but may also lead to the spiritual death of the mother herself. Unless Christian counsellors in crisis pregnancy centres explain this then they are accountable to God if the mother decides to kill her child by abortion due to ignorance. The Bible says in Ezekiel chapter 3 verses 18-21 "When I say to a wicked man, ‘You will surely die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to dissuade him from his evil ways in order to save his life, that wicked man will die for his sin, and I will hold you accountable for his blood. But if you do warn the wicked man and he does not turn from his wickedness or from his evil ways, he will die for his sin; but you will have saved yourself. Again, when a righteous man turns from his righteousness and does evil, and I put a stumbling block before him, he will die. Since you did not warn him, he will die for his sin. The righteous things he did will not be remembered, and I will hold you accountable for his blood. But if you do warn the righteous man not to sin and he does not sin, he will surely live because he took warning, and you will have saved yourself." If we relate this to a counselling situation we can see that the counsellor is obliged to tell the mother that killing her child by abortion is wrong, not encouraging her to make up her own mind and decide on what she is feeling.
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